Emotionally Relevant Goals

Day 152 Week 22 Q2 Friday, June 2, 2023

Everyone has goals. At least everyone I know. And some of them are dreams, and some of them are realistic. Assuming most of our goals require a fair amount of effort to achieve, it seems fair to state they need to be relevant to us to invest the energy required and pay the associated opportunity costs. The question of relevancy seems obvious, but is it?  For those of us who believe the world to be a rational, intellectually consistent place, we may have intellectually relevant goals. For others of us who are more driven by feelings and emotions, goals are not always intellectually relevant. 

The question I pose here is, even if you are an intellectual, what engages you more, the intellectually or emotionally relevant actions? It is my contention that there is no such thing as intellectual relevancy for most of the world regarding how they prioritize their actions. But a great deal of emotional relevancy is operating, driving us toward what we actually do. For me to achieve goals, I need to be emotionally engaged, or I do not put forth the effort. And for me to be emotionally engaged, the action has to be emotionally relevant or at least it needs to feel like it is.

It is my contention that goals which are not tied to emotionally relevant actions and behaviors are not nearly as likely to be reached as those that are driven by an emotional underpinning because most people do not have enough extra willpower, motivation, time or money to invest themselves in activities and behaviors that do not have an emotional payoff.

The next time you find yourself falling short of your goals, you might ask if they are emotionally relevant and if what it takes to achieve them is also emotionally relevant, for if not, it does not matter how much planning, dreaming and wishing you do, you are not extremely likely to get there. 

On the other hand, if there are things you do all of the time just because you want to, not necessarily having an intellectual justification or motivation, it is worth noticing if these behaviors could possibly lead to any goals you might have for these are going to get more mind share and heart and soul share. The more engaged you are, the more effort you are willing to put forth. Therefore, it is much more possible to support your goals when engaged by reality. If you really hate doing the things that lead to some goals, you might want to reconsider these goals.

I know this is an unpopular thought for intellectuals because they have told me so, but I believe there is only emotional relevancy even for intellectuals.  Our emotions drive us all. It is worth noticing when there is a conflict between how we feel and what we think instead of sweeping it under the rug.