Giving Advice to Yourself

 Have you ever felt like you wanted to reach into your life from outside it, with a dose of greater experiential objectivity than you are currently experiencing? Well, of course, you can! Have you ever written a journal?

Notice there are two hands on the book from both sides of the glass. Pretty good trick, huh? Some of the time, if not most of the time, the best advice we can receive is from ourselves. In general, we do know what to do and why we need to do it. But sometimes circumstances get in the way, slowing us down, distracting us, or completely knocking us off the path we are on.

There can be a crisis, like illness, a storm, or something affecting those close to us. There can also be a wonderful opportunity, which, although it does not seem like a crisis at first, is actually a giant distraction, because to take advantage of the new situation, you will likely have to give up the old one.

The notion of seeking greater experiential objectivity in one’s life can be quite profound. It involves stepping back from our subjective experience to view our lives more objectively, almost as an outsider might. This can help us gain new insights and make more balanced decisions.

Journaling is a powerful tool for achieving this. It allows us to document our thoughts, feelings, and experiences, providing a means to reflect on them more objectively. When we write in a journal, we’re essentially having a dialogue with ourselves, which can lead to greater self-awareness and clarity.

For example, someone might write about a difficult decision they’re facing. By laying out their thoughts on paper, they can better weigh the pros and cons and see the situation from different angles. Over time, reviewing past journal entries can also show patterns in behavior and thoughts that might not be evident in the moment.

Another method is meditation, which can create a space of mindfulness, allowing for a more detached view of one’s thoughts and emotions. Similarly, therapy can provide a structured environment to explore one’s life with the guidance of a professional, offering an external perspective.

There are many paths to the top of the mountain. There are an infinite number of books, podcasts, blog postings, well-meaning friends, and family, all ostensibly providing the way to go. But there is no one, except for yourself, who can be both as objective, pragmatic, and well-informed to perform the final integration, which will yield a specific path and result.

In essence, these practices help us to ‘reach into’ our lives from an external viewpoint, providing a dose of objectivity that can be very enlightening. Whether through writing, meditation, or conversation, gaining this perspective is a valuable step toward personal growth. 🌱